Being a new mom, I found familiarity in the title of the book. From the moment the little one has arrived, our life is nothing short of a roller coaster ride! When one kid is driving us crazy, imagine how happening would be a house with three kids, having their own set of demands and tantrums! The parents having a roller coaster ride then, makes for the apt cover. Looking at the cute little kids enjoying their play with the controls made me all smiles! After all, as parents our moves are directed by the whims and fancies of our little angels!
Motherhood is one of the best aspects in a woman’s life. The sheer joy those two pink lines announcing the good news bring is incomparable with any other accomplishment. The moment the parents to be realise the stork is coming, they involuntarily go into the dreaming mode – of holding their baby in their arms, singing songs, playtime and lots of cuddles! Nine months seem a long duration and eagerness to hold the little one in our arms steps up, as each week passes.
But, with motherhood comes an overdose of changes. Battling the morning sickness, weight gain and mood swings, when the mother finally clears the D day finishing line, she is welcomed by sleepless nights, cranky baby and many changes that nobody seems to understand. She wonders if this what she actually signed up for.
What I Didn’t Expect When I Was Expecting is such a heartfelt account of Tina’s sweet and sour experiences with motherhood. Tina beautifully captures the major milestones in a mother’s life step by step, which makes it easy for the readers to go with the flow. Right from discovering the good news, to the challenges of each trimester; from the anxieties and excitement during a scan, to the preparation for the baby’s arrival; from the day you first hold your baby, to handling a toddler, the book has it all. Reading about Tina’s experiences as a new mom, I had many “me too” moments of correlation. All this while I had believed I had been the chosen one for these challenges. But, it felt such a relief to be able to relate to her experiences of postpartum depression, breastfeeding challenges, battle with bulge and sleep deprivation!
As moms continuously raise the bar for themselves, motherhood becomes a guilt loaded experience and can bring insecurities and anxiety. However, Tina goes a step ahead than just sharing her feelings and shares her experience of dealing with issues like a mom’s guilt, a food fussy baby, managing the double shift as a working mom and the constant downpour of advice. As a mom, I second her when she says that a mom always knows what is right for her kids.
When a working woman becomes a mom, prioritising between career and home is one of the most challenging decisions. Having seen both sides of the coin as a working mom and a stay at home mom, Tina gives perspectives from both angles.
No matter if you are a mom, a mom to be or still single, the book is for you.
Since my child is still in the “infant” category, the chapters on toilet training gave me a trailer of what’s in store for me. Having already bumped into the so called “alpha moms” whose favourite pastime is comparing kids, I too agree that it is better to go with your child’s preferences than giving in to norms and peer pressure.
If you are still unsure of taking the motherhood plunge, read the book to know the pride of a mom when her kids achieve milestones in their life; the true meaning of tears of joy and how a hug from your child can give you happiness like nothing else can. I am sure after reading, a part of you would secretly want to experience motherhood.
However, nothing can prepare us for parenting, for it is a unique experience for each one and as a parent, every day brings a new set of learnings.
For most women, motherhood also amounts to a change of equation with their husbands, for the carefree couple is overnight dealing with pressures of effective parenting.
The first thing I did after finishing the last page was to hand over the book to my hubby and said, “Read this and you will know EXACTLY how I feel!” A strong recommendation for all fathers!
As I write this review, with umpteen breaks to attend to my attention loving little one, I am curious to ask Tina, “With three kids, how did she manage to sneak out of their view and steal time to write the book?”
Why It’s a total thumbs up from me
Whether you are planning to have kids or already are a parent, the book is a perfect sneak into the world of parenting, sans frills and exaggeration.
A quick read for a busy mom. One can finish in a straight sitting or like me, read in breaks in between changing diapers.
A brilliant attempt at capturing the major aspects of motherhood while maintaining brevity, for usually moms find it hard to remain to the point when it comes to sharing their experiences.
About the Author:
Tina Trikha is a mother of three school-going children. She has lived and worked in India, Hong Kong and the United States and presently calls Mumbai her home. She holds degrees from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology and the Wharton School of Business and finds those particularly useful when trying to teach multiplication to her children.
Author: Tina Trikha
Release: May 2016
Genre: Non Fiction / Parenting
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